I have written and deleted and written and deleted trying to think of ways to discuss this with you. As I pop Christmas Hersey Kisses in my mouth, I find myself still learning to just be me when I write and sometimes fear holds me back from complete transparency… if I am being transparent.
I am the world’s biggest dreamer. I always have been. When I was a little girl, I would spend hours and hours dancing and singing in the mirror with a hair brush microphone, dreaming of being a superstar singer. I’m still that little girl; my dreams have just shifted a bit. Although, a day in the life as JLo still intrigues me.
Up until recently, I have always thought something was wrong with me. I’m such a dreamer, that sometimes my dreaming interrupts my ability to be present. For example: I’m front row at a JLo concert in real life and as I’m standing there watching her perform, I am thinking about the moment she asks me to come up on stage with her.
LOL. THAT big of a dreamer.
In the beginning of the year, I sought out help from a life coach. It was a conflicting time for me and my lack of contentment in what I thought should be the happiest time in my life was driving me crazy, so I sought out some help from and unbiased opinion. (Side note: If you’ve ever thought about therapy, or seeking guidance from a coach, I highly recommend it.)
During one of our sessions, my coach came to me with some homework. She asked me to journal what my ideal day looked like. I’ve never been asked that question, or ever even thought of taking the time to think about the answer. The purpose with the Ideal Day Exercise is to document everything you’ve ever wanted in a day. Who would you be? Where would you live? What car would you drive? What would you do? Who would you be with?
I took the task and ran with it. I was extremely thorough, you guys. Every single minute detail you can think of is listed on my Ideal Day. Right down to what I ate for dinner and where. The Worthy Blog came from this exercise. The girl that started her coaching sessions with zero clarity, came out the other side with perfect vision of what I wanted for my life.
I’m telling you this because I have some homework for you. I challenge you to find the dreamer inside of you. I challenge you to ask yourself “What does my ideal day look like?” And I want you to dig deep. I’m not talking about a day where you get to sleep in and eat carbs all day (Even though I love that sort of day.) I’m talking about documenting the version of you that is required to access your ideal life.
Here’s some questions that helped me get started:
- What year is it? What’s the date?
- Where do you live? What does your house look like?
- What time do you wake up? What’s your morning routine consist of?
- What are you grateful for in this season of your life?
- What are you wearing? What are the brands of clothing?
- Where do you work? What’s your role? What does your team look like?
- If a career isn’t ideal; what are your hobbies? What do you do for you?
- Who are you with? What are you doing?
- What car do you drive? Do you have a driver?
- Are you traveling? If so, where?
- What do you feel? What are the smells, tastes, sights? Engage your senses.
These questions might seem crazy to answer, but I PROMISE YOU answering them is so powerful. This exercise showed me that I have complete power to create the life that I want. I am in complete control of that and SO ARE YOU! Also, if you have big dreams to be a freaking pop star, then that’s YOUR big ass dream and NOBODY GETS TO TELL YOU THAT YOU’RE NOT WORTHY OF THAT DREAM. Whether you’re the CEO of a multi-million dollar brand, or if you’re a stay at home mom to beautiful babies and an amazing homemaker, nobody gets to tell you that your dreams aren’t worthy and that you’re unworthy of accomplishing everything you’ve ever wanted.
What do you want? Get out a piece of paper and write it down. Visualize your life. It’s the only one you’ve got and it’s all on you.
As Matthew McConaughey stated beautifully in his book, “An honest man’s pillow is his peace of mind, and when we lie down on ours at night, no matter who’s in our bed, we all sleep alone. The voluntary obligations are our personal jiminy crickets, and there are not enough cops in the entire world to police them, it’s on us.”
So what are your big ass dreams? What does your life look like when you accomplish everything you’ve ever wanted? Who are you required to become to get there?
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